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Forgiveness in the Garden

Getting on my knees

Planting seeds for those in need

Isn’t always comfortable, but God has a plan

A divine destination and it’s a blessing, if I can

Just wrap my head around all God is doing

Door after door, change after change, I’m moving

Don’t always want to get in the dirt

Planting seeds many times makes me hurt

But God has a plan, a divine destination

And it’s a blessing, if I can

Just accept the blessings the Lord has laid in store for me

Exceeding and abundantly

Can’t say I won’t have to do more gardening

And believe me, digging in the dirt is not my thing

But when I labor in the garden for the benefit of others in the Kingdom

The Lord nurses my wounds and in the blessing there is freedom

Freedom to press toward the mark and make a new start

No matter what you have done, continue on Destiny’s Road.  Remember, by this time, God’s favor is upon you and His Spirit will never lead you where His grace cannot keep you.  Don’t turn back, press forward!

 Philippians 3:13-14 (KJV) says:

13    Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended:  but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.

14    I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Keep focused on the goal if you want everything God has for you.  If any of you have something else in mind, something less than total commitment, God will clear your blurred vision.

Keep focused on the goal if you want everything God has for you.

Forget About It and Be Forgiven. . .
What are those things you in the past you want the Lord's forgiveness for?


I'm Just Doing Me

I’m just doing me

Although people don’t t want to see

What the Lord has birthed in me

Is what He has destined for me to be

I’m going to run with the tasks at hand

Knowing the Lord will allow me to possess the land

It’s not all easy because haters just don’t want to see

What the Lord has birthed in me

I’m encouraging myself in the midst of frustration

A peaceful existence with some hesitation

Because this isn’t a performance

People just don’t understand, I’m just doing me


Life does not have to be a performance.  When you practice the “Do You” method, practice some appetite-denying discipline to better concentrate on God and don’t make a production out of it.  It might turn you into a small-time celebrity but it won’t make you a saint.  If you “Do You” and go into training inwardly, act normal outwardly.  Shampoo and comb your hair, brush your teeth, and wash your face.  God doesn’t require attention-getting devices.  He won’t overlook what you are doing; He’ll reward you well.


Here’s what you do in the “Do You” stage:  Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God.  Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage.  The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense His grace.


Matthew 6:18 (KJV) says:

18  That thou appear not unto men to fast, but unto thy Father which is in secret: and thy Father, which seeth in secret, shall reward thee openly.

Do You... What are those things you need to “Do You?”

Where's My Stuff?

Economic plight

But trying to stay in the fight

When will God’s favor reign supreme?

Even enemies and haters are living their dream

I’m just Facing A Victorious Opportunity Realistically

Because I’m tired of waiting and just may drastically

Move to the fast lane and get the stuff I want

Victory inevitable, but enemies want to flaunt

Their successes in my face while I continue to wait

I think I’ll decide my own fate

I might get some counterfeits along the way

But, at least, I won’t be in dismay

Where’s my stuff?  The desires of my heart

Waiting makes me want to depart

Lord, I hear you say, be still my child

But I’m tired of being meek and mild

People treat it with disrespect, the devil running free

I’m ready to get back all those things the devil stole from me

Is favor really surrounding me?


 God will surround you with favor as a shield.  You need a shield for protection.  Favor will protect you from the gossip and criticism of others.  When they try to malign you, favor can protect you from the ill effects of their malicious words.  This shield of favor will not just protect you from the front but also the rear.  It is a shield that surrounds you.  Even when you don’t know what people are saying about you, this divine favor will insulate you from damage.

What’s in the fast lane?  Anything you want and desire.  That’s the catch here, sisters.  Satan will give you those things you want, but guess what, they are counterfeits.  As fast as you get them, they will be gone. 

Psalms 37 of The Message Translation says:

1 -2  Don't bother your head with braggarts or wish you could succeed like the wicked.  In no time they'll shrivel like grass clippings and wilt like cut flowers in the sun.

3 -4  Get insurance with God and do a good deed, settle down and stick to your last.  Keep company with God, get in on the best.

5 -6  Open up before God, keep nothing back; he'll do whatever needs to be done:  He'll validate your life in the clear light of day and stamp you with approval at high noon.


He will bless you with the desires of your heart, my sister, just wait on God’s favor to reign supreme in your life.  Sisters, we must do well for our own souls and we will see no reason to envy those that will do anything to get what they want.  Look at the source of what they are obtaining by evil means.  You must grow on Destiny’s Road to making God your hope in the way of duty and then you will have a comfortable subsistence in this world.  You should rely on God, His favor, His providence, His promises, and His grace.  It is during this time of waiting and entering onto Favor Street that God will become your guide and you can leave all your cares and worries to His guidance and disposal. 

(Excerpt from And The Sisters Said, "Amen!")

List the Desires of your heart…

Broken Promises, But Perfect Timing

Tell me, Lord, have Your promises dissipated?

I’ve been on this road, but the road appears elongated

The trials are many, the tribulations seem insurmountable

But, from experience, I know You’re fully capable

To bring me out and allow me to live

In the depths of Your promises, I know You will give

Me the patience I need to continue on this road

You will ease my burden and lighten my load

So, Lord, here I am, waiting again

For Your will to take hold of my life

For the manifestation of promises, instead of strife

The bigger the trial, the bigger the blessing

Victory is eminent, I am confessing

Your glory to be revealed through the experiences You give me

Satan, you don’t have any power, in Jesus’ Name, you must flee!


II Peter 3:9 (KJV) says: 

9    The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to usward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.


Okay, so again, you have to wait and again you start to wonder, “Is this the right road?  Maybe I should have gone to the left at the fork in the road about 5 miles back.”  Don’t doubt it, sisters; you are on the right road.  You must remember that the devil comes to steal, kill and to destroy.

He will do everything he can to make you doubt the birth of your new blessing, as well as the visions and dreams the Lord has given you.


            Stumbling blocks, yes they happen. 

            Drama, yes it happens.

            Job changes, yes it can happen.

            Relationship changes, yes it may happen.

            Financial difficulties, yes it’s a possibility to happen.


Just remember all the promises of the Word and stand on those promises.  The “waiting game” should be called the “frustration game” because it is during this time that you can become frustrated and discouraged at the progress which appears to not be happening.  Just because there appears to be nothing happening does not mean that nothing is!  If you cast your cares on God, He will handle your worries.  While you are yet asleep He is fighting for you.  When you are waiting to see the manifestation of God’s promises to you, you must realize that this is still a part of maturing.


Standing on the promises…

What promises in the Word are you waiting on?


When Will You Graduate?

Look at the sister, over there
Thinks she's all that, who could care
About what she's doing and who she thinks she is
Nobody's blessed anyway, because even God is
Shutting her down, her life is a mess
You see, she's lonely, no friends to protest
To what I'm telling you about that sister over there
Through her downfall, I see life as being pretty fair

A woman who can confess this in her heart has not graduated in her life to concentrating on her own destiny. When you are focused on your own life and what God has so designed for you, you don't have time to meditate on the successes of another and, in your own mind, undermine those successes.

Without the ability to visualize worthy goals and how these can be realized, very little of importance is achieved. When we are in the Lord's will on Destiny's Road, we desperately need an elevated vision of what it is all about. On Destiny's Road, we are aware of our visions, dreams and promises, however, Destiny's Road is filled with much adventure that can become discouraging.

No vision, dream or promise has ever been achieved except by one who dares to put their faith to work. Perhaps, we are hindered by our past experiences, or perhaps we have been fed a steady diet of defeatism. Your vision needs boldness based on faith in God. Your vision needs persistence, not losing heart and faith, for we shall reap in due season, always abounding knowing that our labor is not in vain.

Destiny's Road can be encumbered with decisions in direction, because the Lord does give us a free will in how we handle what He bestows upon our lives. He blesses us to birth visions, dreams and promises.

Write the vision! Write those divine revelations the Lord has given you and make your request known unto the Lord who will give you perfect peace when you keep your mind stayed on Him. Imprint the vision in your mind!

(Excerpt from And The Sisters Said, "Amen!")

Write your dreams and visions. . .

I'm A Visionary!

Where am I, I don't see any familiar streets
Have I taken a wrong turn? I thought this road would set me free
Free to embrace the birth of my new baby
But I'm stuck on the side of road, with nowhere to go, just maybe
I need to pray, for only God knows
In what direction I should proceed to go
I don't understand, but there's a vision I see
A blessing from the Lord, just for me!

When you are tossed and perplexed with doubts concerning where you are you must take painstaking steps to furnish yourselves and be constant in prayer with considerations proper to clear the matter. You must stand upon your watch against temptation to go back to your old ways of handling circumstances and situations. Old things are passed away and behold all things are become new. You must realize that even as you enter the road to destiny there is a continuous growth and maturing taking place. You must not give way to your doubts.

Stop! Don't move! Don't tell your remaining friends! Don't call your old Waiting to Exhale sisters! Go into PMS mode! Quickly, go to the Word, Pray, Meditate and Study! See what the Lord has to say and allow Him to minister to you through the Word. By this time, if you were in the Hateraide [jealous, envious] crowd, you have made it through the DT stage of Hateraide recovery and the milk of the Word will be your sincere desire.

You have prepared for the birth. You are storing your oil. Yes, sisters, you are on the right road! Now, you must write the vision!



AMEN! I'm moving into my destiny
AMEN! No more Waiting to Exhale parties for me
AMEN! I've lost a few friends along the way
AMEN! Were they really my friends if they didn't want to stay?
AMEN! My dreams and visions are coming to pass
AMEN! Peace in the Lord, alas.

Remember, sisters, we can't sit back saying "I've got to pray about it." After prayer, you need to acknowledge God's command by taking action, again, leaning not to your own understanding, trusting God to direct your paths to destiny. Sometimes we sit back, sisters, and wait on God like He's a magician to just magically make the oil appear in our lamps. If He has given you dreams of starting a business, the oil won't magically appear in your lamp. If He has given you dreams of starting a CD project, the oil won't magically appear in your lamp. If He has told you He is preparing you to be a wife, the oil won't magically appear in your lamp. If He has promised you that you will birth children when the doctors have said no, the oil won't magically appear in your lamp. If He has promised you that He will heal your marriage, the oil won't magically appear in your lamp. Single sisters, check your oil! If your finances are in disarray, work to become a better steward. If your credit rating has taken a plunge, work to restore it. If your children are undisciplined, work with them to bring order to your house. If you're still giving your body to several brothers, become celibate.

Store the oil for your lamp of dreams, visions and promises, so that when destiny comes you are ready.

NOW, SISTER GIRLS, LET'S SAY THIS TOGETHER: And the Sisters said, "Amen!"

I Got To Tell It!

I Just Can't Shut Up!

I just can't shut up, I got to tell what's inside
My hopes, my dreams, my visions, I just can't hide
The new job, the new man, the plans me and my husband made
I'm just so excited, but it just may be delayed
Delayed because I just can¿t shut up, I got to tell what's inside
To all my girlfriends and family, it's something I can't hide
But can they really handle what the Lord is doing in my life
I have to accept it, telling them may cause me pain, jealousy and strife
So I'll keep it to myself, just me and Jesus need to know
The blessings He has for me and how they will flow

There comes a time for isolation and a time to be quiet! It is in this time you need to understand that some sisters just won't understand when you have a quiet season. Some of your sister friends just won't understand when you have a season of isolation. I hear someone thinking right now: "What are you saying, throw my friends away?" No, my sister! What I am saying, however, is that we need to learn how to share, have conversation and fellowship. If you're one of those sisters recovering from Hater aide, further recovery involves changing your conversation and sometimes your friends.

I can hold on to my dreams and visions for now. . . It's Not That Serious!!

Spiritual DIVA

"I Am Royalty, A Spiritual DIVA"

Divinely Intended for Victory and Abundance
On the road to my destiny,
I am crowned to be
More than a conqueror,
though obstacles before me
A Spiritual DIVA,
A Princess in God's Family

DIVAs do not possess fear, but are powerful, possess love in their heart, think soberly and are victorious!

What others possess is no comparison to the blessings the Lord has in store for you. The Lord has some blessings tailor-made just for you! We need to recognize who we are and whose we are. You were predestined to fulfill a purpose: Divinely Intended for Victory and Abundance. Spiritual DIVAs! Royalty!

DIVAs live an abundant life!

Don't lose love, redirect it. Don't lose your money trying to improve your outer appearance because you think you don't look good enough, redirect it. Don't lose time waiting around for someone who the Lord doesn't want you to be with in the first place, redirect it. Immerse your emotions, your love, your money and your time totally in God's restful hands. He is ready to receive what someone else threw away, and will return what you sow in good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over.

The PMS Method

PRAY, MEDITATE AND STUDY. . . Use PMS in its best form, instead of unleashing your emotional tensions upon others! There¿s a bigger battle to be won, there is bigger picture in the grand scheme of God's design for your life! Prayer must fasten all the other parts of our Christian armor as we battle against satan. We must pray, not for ourselves only, but for others. Prayer will create such a peace inside you that when you meditate on the Word, you will develop a craving to study the Word more. Milk will be your desire, and soon you will stop partaking from the bitter cups of Hateraide.

You don't need your sister friends to validate you! You don¿t need a man to validate you! You are a royal priesthood, a Spiritual DIVA! Divinely Intended for Victory and Abundance. Speak life to yourself through the Word. You are beautiful. You are classy. You are graceful. You are royalty.

Being part of a royal family does not allow you to be the Queen of Drama. Yes a queen is part of a royal family, but it's not a license to cause havoc and chaos in the lives of other people.

It's a Not That Serious Moment!

What's Love Got to do With It?

What's love got to do with all the resentment, bitterness and need for vengeance? We have really started to use the word "love" so casually that we really don't realize what we're saying. . . it's as general as a "hello" or a "good-bye". But, to go a little deeper, it also is an indication that for some people in this world, "love" has been a negative experience, and negativity infiltrates the heart. There are some who have experienced love in the form of emotional abuse, domestic violence, sexual abuse. But remember, sisters, you are still royalty, Spiritual DIVAs!

Sometimes men and women extend what they call "love" with ill intentions. They will tell you they love you not because they have a heart for you, but because they have another agenda. After they accomplish whatever that agenda is, they don't want anything to do with you. They've gotten your money, your time, your energy, your heart and even your body, all under the auspices of love, and it leaves you feeling rejected, hurt and abused with raging emotions of vengeance. Once our emotions take over, an island of retaliation lies in our hearts, causing a rippling effect in the waves of our mind which trickles down to streams of ungodly desires and events that catapult us into episodes of drama, in recompense for another's actions or in validation of ourselves.

I won't allow vengeance to overtake me
That's not what DIVAs are made to be
What's love got to do with it? The dirt that one seeks on another
What's love got to do with it? Vengeance on that brother
What's love got to do with it? Resentment towards a sister
What's love got to do with it? Jealousy and rejoicing in the setbacks of her
What's love got to do with it? Tearing people's reputations down
What's love got to do with with all these things? Here's the answer:


When my sister friends don't understand ~ WHATEVER!
When no one will lend a helping hand ~ WHATEVER!
When people seemingly, for no reason, walk away ~ WHATEVER!
When the devils puts obstacles in my way ~ WHATEVER!

So many times, we go to God at the ninth hour, all beaten down and tore up from the floor up because we're striving to do things on our own and in our own strength, instead of seeking Him first in prayer, and then standing in faith!

God does not need your help in His divine plan for your life. The embryos of promise the Lord has placed in you may not be birthed in nine months and I'll bet some of you, my sisters, cannot conceive that it may just take nine YEARS! Put that "Whatever" spirit in its place, but while you have to march the beat of the Lord's drum of will and timing.

All in God's timing" "It's Not That Serious!!"